I think it is great that she wants to pursue a career in theater, I am not a teacher but an industry professional, so take this for what it is worth.
She should never presume to be cast, I don't care how good she thinks she is, life can be full of disappointments.
Would she be able to be part of the background players/ensemble, usually this can lead to lesser time commitments but still being involved in the production. If she does not accept this, it confirms that she has higher priority for future than participating in the production, but this allows her to make that decision.
It is nice to see the parents doing what they can to be behind their child, but they need to understand there will be decisions by others High School/College/Community/Professional that will be learning bumps in the road, and the performer must learn to grow.
Chemistry is needed to make a unified production, what are you willing to accept.....you need to determine to be under the performers rule or you need to rule the roost to share your vision. Do you want participation or just a person to fill a role.
1) All persons should audition. NO ONE is guaranteed being cast, special consideration for ego is not warranted.
2) All directors deserve full commitment from their performers, yes there are talented people in the industry, but if the schedule does not fit then it does not work for anyone. Being over committed does you or them no favors.
3) Possibly look at this student in another light, how do I help them on their college track? Do I have the skills to assist with this?
As a director, in the community world, people must balance work and theater, it is no different on the High School level, commitment is commitment, in life there are tough decisions to be made to determine priorities, coddling does not do well for anyone.
At her age she does not need to fill a resume, she will have college to go after that, if she wants to get into a program, she needs to have great auditions and to be able to interview well, for the colleges, and to interview the colleges to define what program will advance her in the industry.
Again take this for what it is worth from an outside teaching perspective from the theater world.
You define your destiny on your own, as we all do with our choices.
Good luck in your decisions
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Jerry Onik
V.P. Theatrical Supplies and Equipment
Heartland Scenic Studio
NE
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