I have been working with high school theatre students for 18 years now. My students know, and we have a reputation for, performing to the highest caliber professionalism as possible. The students know they have to go the extra mile, even if that means kissing on stage. I always discuss with my students the importance of being professional and not cheating blocking or character because something may be outside of their comfort zone. That is part of being an actor after all. I remind them we are telling a story and they are characters on stage not themselves. Because I instilled this in them years ago, and it carries through to the new students we get every year, they are all aware that we will always be as authentic to the show as possible, including kissing scenes. Actually because of this reputation I never get any pushback or unwarranted teasing from the rest of the cast. The students, although they may be nervous about it, are ok with the kissing because they know it helps to drive the story and bring honesty to the stage.
So when I have kissings scenes I always tell the actors at the start of the rehearsal process, or even auditions, that they will indeed be kissing on stage. I then work the scenes and rehearsals as I normally would and we don't really discuss the kissing part until a few weeks into rehearsal. I like to give them plenty of time to process and mentally prepare for the fact that they will be kissing on stage. This also gives them time to become more comfortable with each other as actors and build up that trust.
When the time comes I do a private rehearsal with just those individuals in the room so they can get out all the nerves and jitters without the entire cast looking on. Sometimes it takes a little bit for them to kiss the first time (lots of nervous giggling) especially if this is their first kiss ever (on stage or off). It may take a little coaching, like "put your hands on his shoulders" "put your arm around her waist" "tilt your heads to the right" "now touch lips". Sometimes for the first timers it helps if it is blocked out step by step. It helps them get their mind off of the romance part and uncomfortableness and to worry only about the simple basic mechanics (movement) of it. The romance will come later. I do find that once the first kiss happens the nerves disappear and then it's no big deal for them.
Once we bring it in front of the rest of the cast I do tell everyone that the kiss will be happening and that they are to remain professional about it. No cat-calling, giggling or pointing. This is simply part of the story we are telling.
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Jillian Lietzau
Englewood CO
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Original Message:
Sent: 02-13-2019 12:48
From: Jennifer Avery
Subject: Kissing
I have managed to go 5 years teaching middle and high school without making the kids kiss.Well, last year in a comedic quick moment, we pulled one off. But it was still a huge deal. Otherwise I have been able to get by with a kiss on a hand, a hug, a pose...etc.
We are doing Oklahoma! I truly believed that our department had matured enough to now add very simple kissing to a production. We were going to do the love scene with Curly and Laurey last night, but they had been good-naturedly hounded all day, throughout the school, about their "big day." I mean, from teachers, even. We decided to just work on choreography.
I know how to approach this, how to treat it like choreography, blocking, making sure they are telling the story. But I am still open to suggestions. We are not a performing arts school. But these kids are very dedicated, passionate. I think I owe it to them to encourage this commitment. Communication is very open.
Thoughts?