Thanks everyone! I met with my Principal this morning and I must say that he is VERY supportive of me and what I do. He has been aware the whole time, as the parent cc's him on every email, but he is the kind of administrator that lets me run my own program and doesn't micromanage (which I very much appreciate!). But we met this morning and he is going to send another email to the parent, so hopefully it will end there. Thanks for all your support. I felt like I got a great big hug. : )
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Original Message:
Sent: 05-04-2015 11:39
From: John Hauer
Subject: Bully Parents
Hi,
I too, am sorry that is happening. I thought for sure it was a middle school parent you were talking about until you wrote "senior."
Occasionally, when kids pulls away, the mom tries to get more involved. I bet if you were to ask the student how they felt, they would know that college is coming soon and that high school casting really means nothing once they graduate.
So, yes, I would pull an administrator into the discussion and stop answering her calls and emails. I have an email filter that directs some emails to to file called "parent noise."
Your might have to say, "Oh, sorry. I understand what you are saying, but I have not seen that email. So, I can't reply."
At the very least, I expect that you will get support for ignoring her next year. We had a graduated senior return to try to influence theater "traditions." It was sad. The admin understood that the current "clients" are the ones we need to serve today.
Again, hang in there, this will pass - in less than a month. At a rate of one email per week, that is only four more emails that you need to ignore.
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John Hauer
Hillsborough CA
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Original Message:
Sent: 05-03-2015 19:38
From: Jeana Whitaker
Subject: Bully Parents
I have a parent that sends me weekly, and often daily emails to intimidate, harass & bully me. She got angry when her son didn't get a part in the one act earlier this year & wanted my administration to discipline me for "not being fair" to her son. Fortunately, my administration has been supportive of me, but that made her even more angry and the harassment got worse when she didn't get her way. I've always responded professionally and am trying not to let it get to me. Th he student is a senior so I'm just trying to ride out the storm until he graduates. However, I'm now getting emails about decisions I'm making for next year (club officer selection, choice of plays) even though it doesn't affect her or her son in any way. It's very stressful and I'm beginning to feel that she going to continue to harass me even after her son has graduated. Do I have any recourse for action? How can I make her stop legally & safely?
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Jeana Whitaker
Theatre Director
Mesa AZ
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